Facing Baby Loss

Having a miscarriage is a profoundly personal and devastating experience, both physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Miscarriage can also deeply affect a relationship by strengthening some bonds while straining others. The emotional toll, different grieving styles, and communication challenges can all have a huge personal effect on both people.

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The sad truth is that the experience of miscarriage remains a largely private and often silent experience for the majority of people. There is still a significant amount of stigma around miscarriage; it is under-discussed, often viewed as a “taboo” or something not to talk about publicly and as a result many people wait until the 12-week mark to announce a pregnancy simply due to the fear of miscarriage and the discomfort around talking about loss. This can often lead to people suffering in silence, often without their friends, colleagues, or even family knowing what happened.

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This lack of awareness also leads to minimisation and misunderstanding when someone is brave enough to share their experience. Well-meaning but dismissive comments similar to:

“At least it was early.”

“You can always try again.”

“Everything happens for a reason.”

Can invaludate the emotional impact of miscarriage and significantly (if inadvertently) contribute to the person withdrawing and isolating themselves.

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At the same time, any emotional support which is available is often centred around the woman who is pregnant leaving the other partner feeling invisible in their own grief; or even denying the impact of the loss to themselves. Cultural expectations of masculinity plays a significant role with men feeling as if they should not be experiencing such powerful emotional reactions and to do so means they are not supporting their partner 'the way they should be.'

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If you feel you would like some support please feel free to contact me

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