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Working With a Relationship Counsellor
Relationship counselling, also known as couples therapy or marriage counselling, is a type of therapy that helps partners navigate challenges in their relationship. A trained therapist or counsellor will facilitate discussions, helping couples improve communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their emotional connection.
It can be useful for various relationship issues, such as:
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Communication breakdowns
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Trust issues (e.g., infidelity, dishonesty)
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Frequent conflicts or arguments
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Emotional distance or intimacy problems
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Life transitions (e.g., marriage, parenthood, relocation)
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Family or financial stress
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Considering separation or divorce
Counselling sessions typically involve both partners, though individual sessions may also be included. The goal is to provide a safe space where both individuals feel heard and work together to find solutions.
What Can I Expect From The Sessions
In relationship counselling, you can expect a structured process that helps you and your partner address issues, improve communication, and strengthen your bond through the following methods:
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1. Initial Sessions: Understanding the Relationship
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The therapist will ask about your relationship history, key challenges, and goals.
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You and your partner will share your perspectives on the issues.
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The counsellor will assess communication patterns, emotional dynamics, and conflict styles.
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2. Identifying and Addressing Issues
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The therapist helps identify underlying issues (e.g., trust, intimacy, past trauma).
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You’ll explore negative patterns and learn healthier ways to interact.
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Sessions may include exercises to improve listening, empathy, and emotional expression.
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3. Learning New Skills
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Conflict resolution techniques to handle disagreements productively.
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Communication strategies to express feelings without blame.
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Emotional connection exercises to rebuild trust and intimacy.
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4. Homework and Practice
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You may be given exercises to practice between sessions, like journaling or structured conversations.
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The therapist may suggest behavioral changes to improve your relationship.
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5. Progress and Long-Term Strategies
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As you progress, sessions will focus on maintaining positive changes.
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The therapist may reduce session frequency as improvements increase.
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6. Safe and Neutral Space
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The therapist ensures both partners feel heard and respected.
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Sessions are judgment-free, focusing on solutions rather than blame.
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Does Relationship Counselling Include Psychosexual Therapy?
Yes, relationship counselling can include psychosexual therapy, but not always. It depends on the therapist’s qualifications and the couple’s needs.
Psychosexual therapy focuses on addressing emotional, psychological, and physical aspects of intimacy and sexual well-being. It helps individuals and couples with issues like:
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Loss of sexual desire or mismatched libido
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Performance anxiety or erectile dysfunction
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Pain during sex (e.g., vaginismus, dyspareunia)
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Difficulties with intimacy and emotional connection
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Effects of past trauma on sexual relationships
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Sexual identity or orientation concerns
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General Relationship Counselling: Focuses on emotional connection, communication, and conflict resolution.
Psychosexual Therapy: Specifically addresses sexual concerns. Some relationship counsellors are trained in this area, while others may refer you to a specialist.
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